Positive Parenting Speaker

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Self-Esteem and Emotional Health

Of all the awesome responsibilities parents assume, few are more daunting than helping children develop healthy self-esteem. Self-esteem – a composite inner picture about one’s worth and competence – is one of the most important, and yet misunderstood, concepts in parenting. Our children’s self-evaluation will impact their happiness, academic performance, relationships, creativity, ambitions, healthy risk-taking, perseverance, resilience, and problem-solving. Healthy self-esteem includes the dual components of feeling both loveable and capable—being convinced of one’s intrinsic worth and value, as well as one’s ability to navigate life’s challenges. The conviction that one is both loveable and capable does not make children conceited, selfish or spoiled, or engender a sense of entitlement. Rather, healthy self-esteem describes appropriate self-acceptance, self-love, and self-confidence that serve as the foundation for self-improvement and the basis for all social concern for others. No wonder instilling healthy self-esteem in our children has been called the ultimate yardstick of parenting!

In this presentation, Dr. Mom provides practical strategies for helping children feel infinitely worthy and able to handle the choices, challenges, and changes of life. Parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches, counselors – all stakeholders in children’s wellbeing – will learn how their daily interactions with children can either enhance or undermine self-esteem. Dr. Mom’s message is highly relevant for child advocacy groups, PTAs and parent organizations, hospital community events, child care organizations, schools, child-related non-profits, and other groups.

Parenting with Love and Limits

Few aspects of parenting provoke as much trepidation as managing children’s behavior–and for good reason. Ineffective discipline methods can leave parents feeling frustrated and children feeling misunderstood, causing damage to the parent-child relationship. In this two-part session, (Techniques for Promoting Desired Behavior and Effective Strategies for Redirecting Misbehavior), Dr. Mom will empower parents to enforce limits consistently in an atmosphere of love and affection, making discipline a constructive learning experience that fosters cooperation, responsibility, and self-control. Participants will learn how an imbalance of family power is at the root of many childhood emotional and behavioral challenges, and will learn to recognize their ineffective parenting styles.

In Part 1, Dr. Neifert will review simple strategies to promote and reinforce cooperative behavior in children, including: strengthening your own healthy example; creating a warm, affectionate parent-child bond and a positive emotional atmosphere in the home; implementing a reassuring sense of structure and routine; setting clear limits and enforcing them consistently; and using positive communication techniques. Participants also will learn how to reduce destructive power struggles by engendering in their child a healthy sense of personal power through the appropriate use of choices and rewards and by helping children learn to handle difficult feedings.

In Part 2, participants will acquire a “toolbox” of positive teaching strategies from which to choose when rules are broken, instead of overusing a limited repertoire of ineffective responses. Dr. Mom will explain that the goal of effective discipline—which is very different from punishment—is to help children manage difficult feelings; increase self-control; distinguish appropriate from inappropriate behavior; experience the consequences of their choices; take responsibility for their actions; learn to make good decisions and solve problems; and view their mistakes as opportunities to learn, grow, and make amends. When rules are broken, participants will be equipped to choose a suitable response, with respect for the individual child, their emerging independence, and learning style. Whether dealing with toddlers or school-aged youngsters, discover how positive discipline can decrease the stresses and maximize the rewards for those who undertake the sacred responsibility of shaping the lives of the youngsters entrusted to our care.